At some point in the future, I believe when I type “Beyonders” my computer will finally stop autocorrecting to “Beyond.” I believe Beyonders will become the official designation for people who have lived through the Boomer Years and have arrived on the other side of the aging hill. I believe Beyonders have the experience, knowledge and wisdom that are incredibly valuable to share with Aging Boomer Women. I believe my book will be the passage way of this wisdom between Beyonder and Boomer Women, enabling women my age, The Boomer Age, to feel better about the time in our lives.
My inbox is filled with so many wonderful and informative answers to my Five Famous Questions for Boomer and Beyonder Women. I want to encourage others to share their voice. I envision my book being a conduit between Beyonder Women’s “wisdom” and Boomer Women’s “shock.” Initially, I felt my book would be about forgiving ourselves for aging, seen from the shoes of an aging personal trainer. After checking in with many of my female clients and friends, I found the word forgiving didn’t fit for most of them. As a lifelong personal trainer in the body business, the word “forgiving” rocked my heart as I started witnessing the failure of my perfect fit body. I feel there is a disconnect between my perception of aging as a trainer and other Boomer Women who didn’t spend their lives in a gym. I knew clearly that I needed to do more research on what Boomer Women are actually thinking.
Personally, my first shock came after being informed I needed a hip replacement at 60. No way was I going down that path! Yet 3 years later, I found myself begging for surgery! My first blog post was titled, “Forgiving Myself for Aging,” and dealt with my denial of living in a less than perfect body. In fact, I realized that I needed to travel down the grieving path to acceptance before I could become comfortable with losing part of me. Looking back on my hip replacement journey of denial, I realize that losing my “birth-day” femur and hip socket was the greatest obstacle to move pass.
Please Beyonder and Boomer Women, share more heart deep feelings, answers and ideas! Be a part of my journey of “Writing My Book for Boomer Women.”
Janis’ Five Famous Questions
How old do you feel in your body? In your head?
Are you experiencing shock or acceptance over aging changes?
What are you doing to keep your body functioning well?
Are you feeling content with your life now?
What are you looking forward to?
PS: Men, please do not feel slighted. Just pass this on to the women in your lives, letting them know how much I need their help and thoughts on aging. Women, please pass on my questions to any of your friends or family who might be interested in helping clear up my prejudiced thinking as a fitness trainer! Thank you, Janis